Are you dealing with the occasional… or even daily…. tantrum? So many parents go through this but I’ve found over the years that there is actually quite a lot you can do to prevent / reduce a tantrum.
Here are some strategies that worked for me.
Have predictable routines
Little kids love routine, it makes them feel safe and secure, keep it simple, for example: breakfast, play, time outdoors, story time, lunch, nap, pick up siblings from school, park,
home, tea, wind down time bath, book, bed. You get the idea.
Of course there will be days that are different, but now you’ve got a tiny human you will most likely totally understand why your friends who were Mums before you, used to be so
precious about protecting nap time.
Now you can forgive them for their: ‘Sorry can’t meet you at that time, little Billy / Sophie /Charlie will be asleep.
Anything to prevent a tantrum.
‘No you can’t have another biscuit, ooh quick look there’s a rabbit in the garden’ (no rabbit? then go outside and look for one!). This one is really useful when your child is very young, they are usually easily distracted, requires quick thinking though!
Don’t say ‘NO’ too often
If your child hears the word ‘no’ all the time they will begin to find it very frustrating, and it may lead them to tantrum even more.
Try to distract or find a different way of saying it…
Tune in to your child
Spend as much quality time with your child as you can. Not only will you be meeting a very important need, but it will help you to really tune into your child, and to understand what makes them tick.
Children’s more difficult behaviours will often improve when a parent simply spends more time with them.
Look after you
Children are little sponges, they will soak up the emotions of the adults around them. How you feel can have an effect on how your child feels and therefore on their behaviour.
If Mummy or Daddy is stressed, depressed, anxious, or angry it can be impossible for children to understand what is going on, they are only just learning about their own emotions.
Looking after yourself is not a luxury, it’s vital. If you are not ok parenting is much harder, so never be afraid to ask for help.
Tried all this and your child still has a tantrum?
Stay calm, don’t try to reason with your child once the storm has hit, they can’t hear you. If you feel stressed about the situation, step away for a few minutes, but always be sure to reconnect with your child with a cuddle when they have calmed down.