I like the idea of a day away from the children but as it approaches, I begin to dread it. Along with the usual feelings of guilt, I start wondering if I can be bothered with all the admin associated with handing them over to my parents who don’t look after them that much on their own.
Often, I decide I can’t do it. And the plans to spend time away from the baby are shelved.
This weekend, however, I went through with it!
It required a bit of planning but the baby (and his brothers) had a great time with my parents while I enjoyed a child-free Saturday.
I’m already working out when I can do it again.
7 steps to leaving baby with the grandparents (or someone else you love)
Be organised
Jot down their daily schedule, the food they will be eating and when to offer snacks and drinks. Leave out their coats/ puddle suits/ shoes. Suggest a few things the grandparents could do with them – playground/ fair/ soft play for example (although you’ll also have to explain how to work the buggy!). Bear in mind they might not do anything you suggest. My parents never do.
The favourite teddy
Make sure your child’s favourite teddy/ dummy/ etc is to hand. Your parents will need a rest during the lunchtime nap so it’s important that the baby gets off to sleep!
Health and safety
Point out any hazards and dangers in the home and let them know where the First Aid kit is. My parents just say, yes, yes, yes when I do this and I’m never sure if they’re listening. Write the doctor’s number on the fridge just in case.
Keep it simple
Don’t expect your mother to start introducing a new routine. If you’re baby is on solids, leave the food they love. It’ll be so much easier for the grandparent if everything is eaten.
Let it go
You’ve left instructions, prepared the food, and got all their kit ready – now it’s time to leave! Don’t waste time fussing about where the remote for the television is. They’re going to have a lovely time and you must too.
Ask them to send pictures
My parents always do this and it makes me feel calmer (depending on the picture). Try not to spend the day checking your phone. Ha!
Be kind
Bring back a present (for the grandparent, not the child). Your mother probably won’t put your child to sleep at the right time, or feed them healthy snacks or keep them clean in the park but it’s not worth getting stressed about. One day won’t hurt and chances are you could do with being a bit less uptight about this kind of thing. (I certainly could).
Have a lovely time!
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